Child custody issues may be one of the greatest fears for New Jersey parents heading into a divorce. In addition to ending the relationship between spouses, a separation can also mean major disruption and changes to the parental connection with their children. When a parent has been a daily part of their kids’ lives, even a shift to joint custody can be difficult. Child custody negotiations can be emotionally difficult and pose logistical problems. In fact, many couples postpone divorces for years in order to avoid child custody disputes.
It is possible, however, to have a child custody process that leads to a positive solution for all parties. When fathers come into a child custody hearing or conference with information and recommendations for custody, it can play a major role in protecting their close relationships with their children. Even more, when the parents can both work together with their lawyers to develop a parenting plan, they can decide together on the type of custody arrangement.
A parenting plan based on mutual agreement can be approved by the court so long as it is reasonable and in the best interests of the child. Of course, a parenting plan is only the first step in a good co-parenting relationship. When co-parents are flexible and can communicate about medical, educational and extracurricular needs for their children, it can help the kids to feel emotionally and physically supported even when their parents are apart.
Whether a child custody issue is an amicable matter that can be settled through a mutual parenting plan or there are more contested issues at stake, a family lawyer can provide valuable guidance. An attorney could also help to ensure that all parenting agreements meet the requirements of state law while retaining important flexibility.