New Jersey residents know that being a parent is the most challenging job there is. When one is a single parent, the job can be even more difficult. Many family law issues can come into play including child support and child visitation. During parenting conflicts, there are several things a parent should keep in mind.
It is almost guaranteed that after a divorce there will be parenting disputes. When these occur there are several things a parent can do to help themselves through a situation. First, they can accept the present situation, by knowing that the situation is less than perfect and cannot be completely controlled. The unfairness of the situation should not dictate how a person lives their life in the new situation. By accepting the circumstances and moving on, it provides a good example to the children and a fresh perspective.
Single parents can also trust that parenting is going well. Mistakes will happen and perfection can’t be expected. In addition, a strong support system is key. Knowing that help, advice and support is just a phone call away can be critical in divorce parenting situations.
Negative patterns that were present in a person’s married life can also come into play after the marriage. Being aware of these negative issues is key to changing them and creating a more healthy life. Flexibility is also important. Since there are two parents who are no longer together, children’s lives will be different at each house. A parent needs to be flexible in schedules and other things that are beyond their control. Moreover, each house has different rules. Since the parents no longer live under the same roof, the two different parenting styles can become more obvious. Making peace over an ex-spouse’s rules (or lack thereof), tv time or after school activities can help children feel more secure.
It is also helpful to limit conversations with the ex-spouse to topics of parenting. Discussing other topics can lead to conflict and heated arguments. Being flexible in communications and perhaps involving email or texting instead of in-person conversations may keep the conversations less volatile.
Parenting during tough circumstances such as divorce can be hard for most couples. A legal professional skilled in family law can help couples with their disputes including child support and child custody. Parenting and family legal issues can be complicated and emotional for both parties. A third neutral party can sort out differences and help the family move on while keeping the kids’ best interests at heart.
Source: Huffington Post, “When co-parenting is difficult,” Peggy Kruger Tietz, Nov. 18, 2013