Divorce for New Jersey residents is a huge deal. The decision of whether or not divorce is right for the relationship is not something that is taken lightly. For those who are contemplating whether the end of a marriage is something in the future, there are some steps to take to decide if divorce is the right decision.
The first step in deciding if divorce is the right decision is to determine if the relationship is working for both partners. It is important to be honest in determining both person’s needs and if they are being met.
Second, if confused about whether divorce is right, read some materials that can help offer clarity. These books include the book by Mona Kirshenbaum, Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay.
Third, take account of your emotions. If a person finds themselves wishing their partner was dead, then the relationship is most likely over.
Fourth, make sure you try everything before seeking a divorce. A person can then feel good down the road, knowing that they had tried everything to make the relationship work.
Fifth, choose divorce, if it means that you will feel free. The life and health of a partner and their children is important and divorce can mean that a family can start new and fresh.
Sixth, pay attention to physical symptoms. If a body shows signs that it is suffering, then, perhaps, a divorce is in order.
Finally, think about the relationship and whether a person would want their children involved in a similar relationship. If that thought is an immediate, “no,” then that should be the motivation needed to move onto the next step of divorce.
New Jersey residents who find themselves nearing the end of their marriage may have many questions about what happens next. Emotions are high during this time, and the information can be confusing. A legal professional skilled in family law can help a person determine what their next step can be with divorce, work out custody agreements, property division, alimony, etc. and help bring a peaceful resolution for both parties.
Although divorce is common in New Jersey, it still is an extremely difficult thing to go through for most couples. Knowing that everything has been tried to keep the marriage together is important. Divorce can help couples start over with a new life, and move forward.
Source: The Huffington Post, “7 steps to deciding if divorce is right for you,” Joy Cipoletti, Feb. 22, 2014