New Jersey couples considering divorce may be particularly concerned when they have children. Dealing with child custody and co-parenting can be stressful for the parents, but at the same time, a strong relationship with each parent is very important for the psychological security and health of their children. When there is no abuse or neglect, it’s very important that children are supported to maintain close, positive relationships with both of their parents, even after the divorce. The difficulties of child custody can be some of the most emotionally difficult aspects of the divorce, and adjusting to co-parenting and divided time can be hard on both parents and children.
When both parents prioritize the interests and needs of the children, this can help resolve disputes about child custody more calmly. Shared custody, a common agreement in which children split time between their parents’ homes, can come with an array of logistical challenges, some as simple as lost or misplaced items or homework files saved on the wrong computer. Dealing with these types of issues in a positive, flexible way can help children feel secure even when they frequently switch their home base.
Strong boundaries can also be important for maintaining good co-parenting. This can mean communicating extensively and openly about the children but refraining from excessive inquiries into and discussion about the parents’ personal lives, dating relationships or other matters. It can also mean respecting each parent’s non-harmful approach to dealing with their children and discussing issues together to reach common solutions.
When a parent is considering divorce, a family law attorney may be a critically important resource. Whether the divorce is amicable or contested, a family lawyer may be able to provide representation to protect a parent’s relationship with their children and to develop a child custody and parenting agreement that meets the standards of state law and puts the best interests of the children first.